Have you ever wondered how couples like Mel Brooks and Anne Bancroft or Joanne Woodward and Paul Newman stayed married for so long? Chances are good that respect and positivity played a big part. Relationship experts at the Gottman Institute, renowned for its work on couples therapy, say couples who treat each other with contempt — rolling eyes, calling names, speaking in a sarcastic and cynical way, and using hostile humor — are the most likely to break up. The antidote: positivity. Express gratitude and appreciation, and make an extra effort to be affectionate. Greet your spouse with a “good morning,” and embrace one another when you return home from work. At the end of the day, express your appreciation for one small thing your partner did or said. “Thank you for doing the grocery shopping today,” or “I appreciated you making the coffee this morning” can work wonders. Small, sweet gestures teach you to look for the positives in your partner. Consider it basic training for a longer, stronger, more loving relationship.
"Positive anything is better than negative nothing." Elbert Hubbard